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Dcp¯ncnª "am\knImhØbn \n¶mbncn¡pw Npäp]mSpw \S¡p¶ kw`h§tfmSpÅ {]XnIcW§Ä
apfs]m«pIsb¶XmWv {]kvXpX \nco£Ww. Cu \nco£W¯nsâ ASnØm\¯nemWv at\mhntÇjW¯n\v C¶v
hym]Iambn D]tbmKn¡s¸Sp¶ hn\nabm]{KY\w (Transactional
Analysis) cq]w sImSp¯n«pÅXv. A£c§ÄsImWvSv
AÛpX§Ä krjvSn¡m³ Ignbp¶ aebmf¯nsâ {it²b\mb Fgp¯pImc³ B\µnsâ Ckvemapambn _Ôs¸«
hniIe\§Ä ImWpt¼mÄ ]et¸mgpw HmÀah¶n«pÅXmWv Sn.F.bv¡v ASnØm\ambn hÀ¯n¡p¶ Cu \nbaw.
aäp]e hnjb§fnepw B\µv ]peÀ¯mdpÅ auenIX F´psImWvSmWv Ckvemw hnaÀi¯nsâ Imcy¯nÂ
{i²n¡m¯sX¶ kwib¯n\v asämcp D¯chpw IsWvS¯m\mhp¶nÃ. H¸w Hcp kzImcyw.
Ckvemans\¡pdn¨ A]{KY\¯n B\µv kzoIcn¡p¶ "auenIX' am{Xsa aäp kmaqlyhnaÀi§fpsS
Imcy¯nepw DÅqsh¶v hcptam? A§s\ BImXncn¡s«sb¶mWv \½psS B{Klhpw {]mÀY\bpw.
Ct¸mÄ CXp ]dbm³ {]tXyIamb Hcp ImcWapWvSv. 2006 Pqembv Ggn\v ]pd¯nd§nb "aebmfw'
hmcnIbnse Hcp A`napJ¯n "kvt\lkwhmZw' amknIsbbpw kwhmZ¯n\pÅ apkvenwIfpsS
k¶²XbnÃmbvasbbpw B\µv hnaÀin¡p¶pWvSv. Ckvemapambn _Ôs¸« hnjb§fn Xosc
hkvXpXm]camb \ne]mSÃ At±lw kzoIcn¡p¶sX¶Xn\v sXfnhmbv Cu hnaÀi\¯neqsS It®mSn¨mÂ
am{Xw aXnbmhpw. "aebmf¯n'eqsS At±lw \S¯p¶ hnaÀi\§Ä cWvSmWv.
(1). "kvt\lkwhmZw' amknI Fs¶ Ipäs¸Sp¯p¶p.
(2). apkvenwIÄ kwhmZ¯n\v k¶²cÃ.
ChtbmSpÅ "kvt\lkwhmZ'¯nsâ {]XnIcWamWv Xmsg:
H¶v). B\µnsâ Ckvemw hnaÀi\§sf A]{KYn¨psImWvSpw adp]Sn ]dªp sImWvSpw \nch[n
teJ\§Ä "kvt\lkwhmZw' {]kn²oIcn¨n«pWvSv. Ahbnsem¶n epw B\µns\ hyàn]cambn
A[nt£]n¡pItbm Ipäs¸Sp¯pItbm sNbvXn«nÃ; At±l¯nsâ hniIe\¯nse t]mcmbvaIfpw A_Ô§fpw
NqWvSn¡mWn¡pI am{XamWv sNbvXn«pÅXv.
cWvSv). {]kn²oIcn¨ teJ\§fpÄs¡mÅp¶ "kvt\lkwhmZw' tIm¸nIÄ At± l¯n\v
Ab¨psImSp¯ncp¶p.
aq¶v). "kvt\lkwhmZ'¯nsâ hnaÀi\§tfmSv At±lw {]XnIcn¨n«nÃ. teJ\§ Äs¡m¶pw At±lw
adp]Sn FgpXn Ab¡pItbm X\n¡v adp]SnbpsWvS¶v "kvt\l kwhmZ's¯ Adnbn¡pItbm
sNbvXn«nÃ.
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Ipdn¸pIÄ "kvt\lkwhmZw' {]kn²oIcn¨n«pWvSv.
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Ipdn¸pIfpw "kvt\lkwhmZw' amäsam¶pw hcp¯msX Xs¶ {]kn²oIcn¡mdpWvSv; adp]Sn klnXw.
Bdv). Ckvemansâ hnaÀiIcmb ss{IkvXh anj\dnamcpambpw kwLv]cnhmÀ _p²nPohnIfpambpw
bpànhmZn t\Xm¡fpambpw thZn]¦nSpIbpw AhÀ¡v Ckvemans\Xnsc D¶bn¡phm\pÅ hnaÀi\§Ä
tIÄ¡pIbpw Ahbv¡v CkvemanIamb adp]SnIÄ \ÂIpIbpw sN¿p¶ Xpd¶ kwhmZ§fpsS kwLmSIcmWv
"kvt\l kwhmZ'¯nsâ AWnbdbnepÅhÀ.
Ggv). Fgp¯neqsStbm kwkmc¯neqsStbm GXv cq]¯neqÅXmsW¦nepw B\µpambn kwhmZ¯n\v
"kvt\lkwhmZw' k¶²amWv. AXv "kvt\lkwhmZ'¯nsâ H¶mw XobXn apX¡pÅ \bamWv. BZy e¡¯nÂ
Xs¶ A¡mcyw \mw hyàam ¡nbn«pWvSv.
C\n Xocpam\nt¡WvSXv B\µv BWv. H¶pIn kwhmZ¯n\v k¶²amhpI. Asæn "apkvenwIÄ
kwhmZ¯n\v k¶²csÃ'¶ hmÀ¸p kn²m´w BhÀ¯n¡mXncn¡pI. Bcpambpw kwhmZn¡phm\mWv JpÀB\nsâ
A\pimk\sb¶v a\Ênem¡phms\¦nepw HmdnbâenÌv cN\Ifn \n¶v Ckvemans\ Adnbphm\pÅ
{ia¯n\nSbn B\µv a\Ênemt¡WvSnbncp¶p.
""bpànZo£tbmSpIqSnbpw kZp]tZiw aptJ\bpw \ns³d c£nXmhns³d amÀK¯nte¡v \o
£Wn¨psImÅpI. Gähpw \à coXnbn Ahcpahbn kwhmZw \S¯pIbpw sN¿pI...'' (hnip² JpÀB³
16:125).
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