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Relations outside of wedlock
Relations outside of wedlock
What
is wrong if two individuals desire to get involved in a
sexual relationship with each other ?
Sex is a divine gift. Its foremost function amongst living
creature is reproduction. It is also true that in the case
of man, besides reproduction, his mental health, happiness
of family life , peaceful social life: all are linked to
sexuality. In availing of a sexual behavior that is not in
keeping with the divine guidelines, the mental health of the
individual, solidarity of the family and social structure
will be adversely affected. Moreover, such extra-marital
relations will lead to the affliction by sexually
transmitted diseases which will eventually end in the
degeneration of society. Indeed, those who have learned of
this through experience have been the very people who claim
for themselves the status of being the spokespersons of
modern civilization.
Islam teaches that if two individuals are to have sexual
relations with each other they are to do so only through the
contract of marriage. Apart from that all other relations
are bound to create problems and damage. It will also
destroy the very fabric of all values in society. It will
cast the seeds of suspicion within one's marital life. Such
suspicion will then create cracks within the rapport between
hearts. It disrupts family relations - it will even gravely
affect the mental health of future generations.
The statistics related to this subject in Kerala, which is
currently moving ahead with the acceptance of western
values, will frighten any with a sense of moral
consciousness. For instance, at least three hundred people
report at the Rajiv Gandhi Centre for Biotechnology in
Trivandrum every month to verify through DNA whether they
themselves are indeed the fathers of the infants borne by
their wives. (Mathrubhumi Weekly, 31.01.99) What does this
reveal? The number of spouses who distruct each other is on
the increase. What is the reason for this? The answer is
given by Mathrubhumi itself: "30 percent of the men and 18
percent of the women who participated in the survey
confessed that they indulge in extra-marital affairs."
This is the state of Keralite society which boasts of great
and lasting moral traditions. As for the state of western
societies, it is even worse. The greatest social problem
there continues to be the girls who become pregnant at a
very tender age. Another important issue with which the
government continues to grapple is the problem of
illegitimate children. However the situation there is such
that these issues are not considered as problematic at all.
Social scientists, however, warn that such violations of
behavioral norms lead to the collapse of the institution of
the family and consequently create social problems of a
grave nature which will, in the long run, end in the total
chaos and destruction of the western world.
Islam has never envisioned such a society. Islam has striven
for the creation of a society wherein a peaceful family
environment and marital relationship prevails.
To that end, Islam considers that all sexual relations
outside of wedlock are to be prohibited. For that reason the
Qur'an recommends strict penal laws which serve to eliminate
such sexual relations. Conceding the fact that the sexual
impulse is, indeed, one of the most powerful of instincts,
it is necessary, nevertheless, to check man, in the exercise
of that impulse, with equally compelling measures. Indeed,
herein lies the great relevance of the punishments in the
Quran.
Courtesy: M M Akbar
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"Narrated
Aishah (radhi-yallaahu 'anhaa): The Prophet (sal-Allaahu `alayhe
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moderately, and receive good news because one's good deeds will
not make him enter Paradise.” They asked, “Even you, O Allah's
Messenger?” He said, “Even I, unless and until Allah protects me
with His pardon and His Mercy."
Sahih Al-Bukhari, Vol. 8, Hadith No. 474